Things Are Good Again ... For Now

So, I don't think I mentioned it in my last post, but Richard served me papers last week. He got mad and filed papers. Basically, they said nothing TOO unreasonable, so luckily, the situation didn't get TOO messy. I had plans to go to legal aid last week, so I could file my own papers and argue his claim, but after going over the papers, I realized I really had nothing to argue. He basically stated on them that every decision regarding Aden would go through us both, except for where he lives, which would be Richard's choice. Like I said in my previous post, I know this is only because of WHO I'll be living with, and probably because my financial situation is not as stable as Richard's. Fair enough, I think. And I'm choosing not to argue the current living situation, because well, I can't. As it is right now, Aden comes over Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays during the days, and if I ever wanted him on a weekend, he could come then too. He goes to a dayhome on Mondays and Thursdays, so he can socialize, and he stays with his dad every night, just because his room is there and he's got his own bed and stuff.

We've also both agreed that that living situation can and will change once I am able to move out of my dad's house ... and that when that day comes, we don't want to go and file papers to change it, unless we need to of course. Once I can move out into a place where Aden CAN have his own room, he'll be able to stay with me when work allows, and we can spend more weekends together and stuff. I'm already looking forward to it, even though that day won't be coming anytime in the forseeable future. Richard has even said he'll gladly drive Aden into the city (it's only about a 20 minute drive), where I've already told him I'll be living, as long as he doesn't ALWAYS have to (deal) and I can give him gas money (deal). He's said he'll never bring him to the door, just in case my boyfriend answers, which is fair enough, but he won't refuse to bring him over. So, I'm happy. Things are working out in my favor on that account, so I've got nothing to complain about! He still isn't comfortable, I'm sure, with my choice of boyfriend, but hopefully someday he'll realize that he's NOT a bad guy. I wouldn't endanger myself or Aden by being with someone I didn't trust, so of course I trust my boyfriend.

In case anyone was wondering, my boyfriend still hasn't met Aden. It's really hard for us to get together when we're not working beforehand, because we live in different cities and we don't drive. So luckily, we are able to take the Aden situation very slow. I know he'll love Aden when he meets him, and that won't put a strain on our relationship -- if it hasn't already, it won't. But still, I'm glad we can't rush it. It's kind of nice having those two parts of my life seperate for now. Don't get me wrong ... I WANT them to meet, and I look forward to the day that they can ... but it's still probably good that they haven't yet. And don't worry. Even once they do get to meet, I won't be all ... coupley in front of Aden. I would feel ... strange doing that. I plan on slowly introducing the boyfriend into his life, so he won't resent him. I'm aware Aden's only two, so he can't automatically hate the guy ... but I'm sure he could still have less-than-happy feelings towards him.

Anyway ... rambling.

Overall, I'm content again. Hopefully it'll last this time, and Richard won't freak out again for any reason. He finally seems to be accepting the fact that I really am happy with someone else, despite the fact that Richard is a racist jerk. He's not comfortable with it, by any means, but he doesn't want the two of us to be miserable anymore. He wants Aden to be happy, and he finally seemst to be realizing that in order for that to keep happening, he can't go making MY life a living hell.

Hopefully the non-complaining can stick for awhile. I don't like having a million things to complain about! I'd much rather type out a short blog post than ramble on and on about how miserable I am!


OH! I've told you all about the one chick at work who was my enemy right? The one who was technically my boss and LOVED it? WELL she and I are no longer enemies. As it turns out, she was thriving on my dissatisfaction with my life, and she was only making it worse. Now, she sees that I'm happy and that I'm actually capable of being good at my job, and she and I have actually gotten very close. It's strange ... I actually sort of look forward to working with her. I love it!

Yep ... life is good!