An Itty Bitty Update

Things are basically all over the place right now. There's the Aden/Richard situation, the "Work Guy" situation, and there's work -- three completely different things to talk about today!


First of all, Richard. Ah, what a delight that man is ... um ... not so much. He keeps getting very angry whenever he finds out I've gone out with my friends and stayed with my boyfriend on the weekends ... and when that happens, he begins to lash out and start making unnecessary decisions. This weekend, he took things way too far. I stayed in the city twice this weekend -- Friday night and Sunday night -- and he did NOT like that. He started threatening to take me to court and make it so I can NEVER have Aden overnight, even once I am able to move out of my dad's house. Mainly, this is because he assumes I will be living with my boyfriend, and because he's not white, Richard can't stand it. The way he puts it, he doesn't want someone "like that" to be raising his child. Uh ... stop right there, buddy, cause whoever I'm with will NOT have a huge hand in raising my son -- I already know that, and my boyfriend agrees with me. Richard and I will always be the only ones raising Aden -- that won't change depending on who I'm with. It doesn't work that way.

Anyway ... yeah. He told me he's taking me to court and he's going to make it so I HAVE to go on meds for bi-polar (which I haven't even been diagnosed for, by the way), and so I have no choice in where Aden lives. He wants it to always be HIS choice, which means he will never get to live with me. I'll get him on weekdays during the day, just like I do now, and that is NOT what I want. He's even keeping Aden from me until we get to go to court. Um ... yeah. I have been begging him since yesterday to bring Aden over at LEAST one day this week, because I am not going to wait until we go to court to see my son. Hell, I don't even want this to go to court! And as far as I'm concerned, it doesn't have to. He wants to make it messy and a huge inconvenience to me. Basically, he wants to make my life miserable. He wants to stop me from being with my boyfriend, mainly because he's extremely racist. It's EXTREMELY frustrating!!

He's trying to tell me I'm a horrible mother, because I go out and enjoy myself when Aden's schedule allows. Just to be clear, I DON'T leave town when I know Aden is coming over the next day. My friends and my boyfriend would love to spend more time together, but I tell them I can't, except on weekends or the days Aden goes to the day home. And they're fine with that. They obviously aren't going through the same shit I am, but they are trying to be very understanding of the situation. They know Aden is my life and that even though I spend a lot of time with them now, he still comes first. Richard and my family don't see it that way, of course, but that's too bad for them. I know how I feel and I know what I'm doing. I'm not going to be like Richard and sit and home getting angry about everything when Aden isn't coming over -- I am just enjoying the time I have where "Mom" is not my number one job! Is there anything wrong with that? No, I don't think there is.


Which leads me to my next point: my boyfriend. I'm pretty much falling in love with the guy more every day! All of the drama with Richard really started happening while I was over there yesterday, and I always get scared when things get like that ... because I really don't know how much my man can take. I'm always afraid he'll get sick of all the drama in my life and he'll decide it's not worth it. But no, it's completely opposite of that. He tries to comfort me through it, and you know what? He's SUCH a big help. He's in school right now to be a legal assistant, so he knows plenty about family law. He has been telling me about all this stuff I didn't know about before, so now, I know exactly what Richard and I can do without going to court. Richard and I both want it to be as clean as it can, and now, because of my brilliant boyfriend, I know exactly how to do that. HA!

Anyway, my lovely boyfriend is so on board still. He still wants to do all we can to make it so everything is good. I feel like I've been dragging him through the mud with all this drama, but he's still here. That's saying something! He used to be scared of commitment and all that typical stuff ... but with me, he's not. He's ready for so much, and I love him for it. He's ready to deal with all the drama that I'll no doubt be dealing with forever, and I'm so glad to have him there with me for all of it. I can guarantee that I would not be handling all of this so well if I didn't have him. I'd probably be a wreck.

And not to mention my amazing friends! Our two best friends -- I've referred to them before as C and L, I believe -- have been so amazing through all of this. They were there yesterday when all the bull shit started, and they stuck by me. I haven't had friends this good since high school, and since those basterds all ditched me when I was pregnant, I guess you could say that C and L are the best friends I've had EVER! I love those two so much ... I can honestly say I think we'll all be close forEVER!


What else ... oh yeah ... WORK! Work is going AMAZINGLY! I can safely say that Sunday was BY FAR the best shift I've ever had at work, and NOT because I worked with my best friends and my boyfriend! That's a first! At work, we have to sell protection plans. Until a few months ago, this was not something I liked doing. I felt horrible doing it. But now, I'm ... good. I wouldn't say I'm great at it, but I do enough to keep my job. On Sunday, however, I did a kick-ass job! I sold the most in the store that day! HELL YEAH! And the result of that is getting more shifts! WOO!


That's pretty much it. Enjoy!