A Realization

Richard's best friend annoys me lately. He is dating a girl who has a 2 year old, and he refers to him as his own kid ... saying he knows what it's like to be a parent. This has really annoyed me, but up until recently I couldn't really figure out why it annoys me.

I figured it out.

It bugs me because, as a kid who grew up around several different boyfriends of my mom's, and three step-parents in total (two step-dads and one step-mom) ... it would drive me CRAZY if any of those boyfriends or step-parents felt they were a real parent to me. Sure, this kid that Richard's friend has been treating like his own is only 2, so he's not old enough to be annoyed by it yet ... but if he were any older, he would HATE it.

I was talking to this friend one day about several things, including uh ... couple issues, and one of my excuses was that I have a kid and house stuff to do all day. Reasonable enough, you'd think. But no, he comes back with "I have a kid too ... and I clean my house and their house." I responded nicely, but I was thinking more along the lines of "You do NOT have a kid, don't even act like you do."

Seriously. Your girlfriend's kid is NOT the same as having your own kid ... even if they both spend most nights over there (talk about irresponsible parenting). No matter how much time you spend together, you're NOT family. It drives me insane.

He's so effing desperate to have his own kid after his last girlfriend miscarried ... now I guess he's taken to dating girls with kids to call his own. It's sad. I refuse to go over to his place with Aden anymore. I know, it's a little harsh of me, but ... grow up, dude. He's only 21 or 22, and so desperate for a family. What's the rush? He'll find a nice girl to marry and have kids with someday ... he doesn't need to intrude on someone else's family just to fulfill his odd needs. NO RUSH!